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Dear Lover... with Amy Reid
Welcome to “Dear Lover…” - a space where we are all about illuminating the devoted Lover within us - being the joy, the compassion and the fire - even through the darkest of times.
Hi, my name’s Amy - I’m a SEN Teacher, Poet and Podcast Host, who’s experienced the past 8 years living and teaching abroad and now enjoying a creative journey of empowerment, based in London.
On this podcast we are all about reconnecting with our true nature and awakening to our innate creative power together. I interview and share intimate, honest and powerful conversations with people from various walks of life that have impacted and challenged me and who I'm learning from in my journey.
We share how we can individually make small changes in our present to being our own best lover, to create collective mass transformation towards uniting in unconditional Love.
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With Love and Gratitude Always,
Amy
Dear Lover... with Amy Reid
04: Reclaiming Our Feminine Nature: A Journey of Self-Love and Sensual Transformation with Gina Marie
What if reclaiming your feminine nature could transform your life? Join the conversation with our guest Gina Marie, a Holistic Sex Coach, on a profound journey of self-love, sensual embodiment, and creative empowerment.
Gina Marie shares her inspiring story of discovering holistic healing and tantric practices through personal struggles with intimacy and pain during sex. Together, we celebrate the power of connecting with our bodies and sexual energy, emphasizing a gentle, body-honoring approach to healing.
Discover how to navigate relationships and embrace self-discovery, drawing wisdom from personal journeys of growth and self-love. By harnessing sexual energy for creativity and abundance, this episode unveils the powerful link between pleasure and success.
We also emphasize the importance of proper sexual education from a young age, advocating for a respectful and sacred approach to understanding our bodies and sexual energy. This rich tapestry of stories and practices will empower you to lead a life filled with love, joy, and authentic connections.
What we disucss:
00:13 Healing Through Pleasure
00:25 Navigating Relationships and Self-Discovery
00:37 Harnessing Sexual Energy for Creativity
00:42 Navigating Sexual Education With Innocence
00:48 Redefining Sexual Education for Empowerment
Gina Marie is a Holistic Sex Coach. She helps people create fulfilling lifestyles, relationships, and intimacy through teaching tantric practices. Her work acknowledges and integrates the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual body to promote wholeness and authentic pleasure.
You can learn more about Gina through visiting her website at: www.thesovereignhealer.com and to learn all things tantra, relationships, and sacred sexuality subscribe to her newsletter https://www.thesovereignhealer.com/registration or follow her on Instagram @Jaguar_priestess
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With Love and Gratitude always,
Amy
Welcome to, dear Lover, a space to dive deep into the unknown and celebrate diverse human creativity and devoted self-intimacy. My name's Amy and I'm here to get real and unscripted in sharing my journey of reclaiming my feminine nature and awakening into my truth. We'll be sharing conversations and stories on self-love, sensual embodiment, intimacy and creative empowerment, all with the intention to be on this journey together of coming home to our heart, embody the fullest expression of our sexuality and lead with love, compassion, play and joy. So let's trust, breathe and believe and create magic together. Today we are joined by Jeannie Marie.
Speaker 1:Jeannie Marie is an holistic pleasure coach and she helps people create fulfilling lifestyles, relationships and intimacy through teaching tantric practices. Her work acknowledges and integrates the mental, emotional, physical and spiritual body to promote wholeness and authentic pleasure. I loved having this conversation. It was very real, very honest and we open up about our own journeys of exploring and unlocking our own sexuality and pleasure and intimacy. So I can't wait for you to listen, let me know what you think and you can learn more about Gina Marie through visiting her website at wwwthesovereignhealercom, and to learn all things Tantra, relationships and sacred sexuality. Subscribe to her newsletter or follow her on Instagram at jaguar underscore priestess Welcome welcome.
Speaker 2:Thank you so much, amy. I'm very excited to be here. I know that we've been cultivating this podcast for some time, planning the day, and it's finally arrived Exactly and it's finally arrived exactly, and you know that's.
Speaker 1:I just want to honor that and and honor the, the social media for this connection, because we haven't met, we've literally just connected on social media and and now we're here and I feel like you know it's such a I love, like the reminder of, because social media can be really challenging, it can be a bit of a car crash for some people and some, you know, I know some of us, including myself, have had quite a journey on Instagram particularly, and I feel like it's yeah, I just want to honor that and highlight the, the, the goods that can come out social media, when used in, when used for a purpose, and and connection.
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh yeah. These are our tools. Now we're connecting. You're on the other side of Florida.
Speaker 1:You're in South Florida, I'm in Barcelona. It's amazing. It's amazing. Thank you so much. I'm really happy to have this conversation. So first, just to get started, can you tell the listener, just like an overview of who you are, a little bit about yourself, about just a high level overview, and then we'll go into the juicy details about?
Speaker 2:just a high level overview and then we'll go into the juicy details For sure. Yeah, so I'm Gina Marie and, like I said, I'm located in South Florida. I work as a holistic sex coach, a tantric teacher and a somatic guide for both men and women and couples, and my mission, I believe, in this life is to help individuals, including myself, embody that full potential, that wholeness that we already are, by coming into our sovereignty, connecting to our body, connecting with our sexual energy and using that energy to create. Create in our favor, because we can create babies with life force, energy and sexual energy, right.
Speaker 2:So what else can we create beyond just pleasure? We can create health, we can create successful endeavors, we can create anything that our heart desires and really step into that fact that we are God, goddess, and we can create life in our favor and play and enjoy it and really be open and receptive to the beauty, the power, the joy, the pleasure that life has to offer us. And it's just through coming into our heart to offer us, and it's just through coming into our, our heart, that wholeness that's within the heart space so that's what I believe my mission is amazing and what a beautiful, beautiful mission.
Speaker 1:I love everything you said and particularly thank you for sharing and so, so, so clearly, so succinctly, and I can tell, with a lot of passion I can and I can tell and I can feel that you don't just teach it, you embody in it and yourself and you're practicing, practicing this yourself, and it's it's, it's you. You're sharing a part of your heart and your soul through your words and your message. I really feel that, yeah, so when were you, um, how did you come into this, this area? Like, where were you, for example, I don't know, two or three or five years ago in in your relationship to your body, your, your embodiment path and your sensuality and your sexuality? You tell us a bit about that.
Speaker 2:For sure. So what actually kick-started this whole path for me was about six years ago. I was in a beautiful, healthy relationship and that held the space for me to really see more of myself and and really go deeper into what I may need to be working on. Um. I absolutely love this man. There was never a bad thing I could say about him. I only ever had beautiful things to say and for some reason I couldn't have sex with him. I couldn't bring myself. I felt very overwhelmed, I felt very anxious. I felt pain.
Speaker 2:When I did have sex, I would bring myself to have sex because I felt like I want to keep my partner happy, I want him to be interested in me. So I got to do this thing and I would go into it with a lot of fear, a lot of anxiety, a lot of pressure to please Um and just wanted it over with the whole entire time because it would either feel numb or it would feel very painful, like sandpaper scraping my internal and um. I even felt really embarrassed to share that with him. I felt like he'd lose interest. Maybe he'd go find somebody else that doesn't have these kinds of problems, um, so I kind of was just like figuring it out myself what can I do so that I can enjoy sex with my partner more effectively? Um, and you know, back then I was actually using like marijuana every time prior to intimacy, because it really did help alleviate the tension, alleviate the mind and all the anxiety and the pain in my vagina. Um, but I knew that that wasn't sustainable. I couldn't do that long term. I also didn't like how, after the next day, I would feel really groggy and tired. So I was like, wow, I can't continue doing this.
Speaker 2:And one day I actually had like a breakdown and I was like pushing him away, fighting with him, just so like I could have an excuse for us to not have sex. And he kind of like he was very attuned to me, very aware, and he kind of like called me out on it. How like I was pushing him away and he feels like there's something beyond what's really going on, and I just like broke down crying that this isn't something I can do anymore. I can't have sex, like I don't know what's wrong with me, but I just don't enjoy sex. It's always painful. I've just been doing this to make you happy. And in that moment he was felt very empathetic for me, very understanding and wanting to support me. So he connected me with a friend of his who is actually a tantrica tantric practitioner his body work and I started seeing her and I was receiving tantra massage and she was also coaching me and doing hypnotherapy.
Speaker 2:Along with that, some mindset work, some emotional integration and I was slowly opening up. I was slowly starting to feel my body and also starting to feel safe and more comfortable, talking about sex and the things that I like, the things that I didn't like, what I thought I needed, and making more time for sex. So that's really what kickstarted the journey for me. I mean, it wasn't something that obviously is fixed overnight. So the the path continued to unfold and I started meeting more tantric practitioners, exploring different forms of body work, different realms of tantra.
Speaker 2:Um, and I really fell in love with that path because it felt like a pleasurable way of healing. It felt like I didn't have to cry or throw up in medicine ceremonies or do all these like weird, uh, like intensive things to quote unquote heal or get better. So I really fell in love with this. I was like wow, like just by touching myself in like gentle, loving ways, just by meditating on certain parts of my body just by like doing things that made me feel good or slowing down. It was actually coming more into myself and discovering deeper aspects of myself and seeing the things that needed to switch or shift and just like really coming into myself through pleasure. So I was like wow, I really like this.
Speaker 2:And I was really like intensely working on myself for like a good two years before I found that the pain and the numbness was like completely gone and I was like juicy and engorged and just happy to connect.
Speaker 2:So it definitely took some time, but I saw that it was totally possible yeah, totally possible and I did a complete 180 within my sex life, where I was afraid and anxious and doing everything I can to avoid it, to now like thinking about it all day and like the second my partner and I were home, I'm like, come on, let's like, let's do this, like I was really excited and looking forward to it and I felt like really honored actually to be receiving my partner in that way, cause I felt like wow, like I'm learning about myself through our experience together and, um, from there I just saw like this is really powerful, like this, this really deepened our relationship with each other.
Speaker 2:With myself, I'm enjoying my sex life and as I continued just going through life, I found that there was quite a few women in my circle who were dealing with similar challenges that I was. So it was just sharing with them things that I've done, from like yoni eggs to yoni massage, to just regular self-pleasure massage that doesn't even include genital touch, um, and like certain meditations to enhance the awareness, and they were practicing and they were sharing yeah, like this stuff really works, gina, and I'm like, yeah, great. So you know, I was seeing like this didn't only help me, this is also helping my friends and other women who came to me sharing that this is also something that they were experiencing. So I thought, wow, like you know, this is something more people should really know about, know that it exists, so they have that option there if they felt like they needed that. Yeah, so that's why I'm now a holistic sex coach.
Speaker 1:Amazing, I want to share this with everyone, of course you do, of course, naturally, right, naturally, oh, so many things, I so many things, I want to so many ways. I could take this conversation now, based on what you said, like it's so, it's so great, and, and um, one of one of the one, one of the things that that came out to me as you were speaking is that one. Firstly, it sounds like you surrendered to that process. It wasn't, it wasn't ahead, it wasn't like you went out there and said I'm gonna be her holistic pleasure coach, her holistic sex coach, and you know and help. It was literally an organic process that you experienced and you went through yourself and you surrendered to it and then you realized other women, your connections, experience the same challenges and it just sounds organic. And I just want to highlight that because, um, yeah, I know that from my own experience as well like, rather than when we, when we um allow and surrender and and think what's what's naturally occurring in our experience, what is our current experience and how can we serve, how can we help people through our own experience. I think that's really powerful. So, yeah, and also, like, I love that the important point here is that it's you took responsibility right, you took complete responsibility of your, and that's scary, that's a big, especially when it comes to female pleasure and our sexuality. You know, like we have been been conditioned with this, this beliefs and message of, like you say, I'm, our sexuality is to please men and we're here to please, you know, and it's it's outward focus. I think that's definitely changing now for sure, and transforming a lot, and I feel like that is a big that takes courage, that takes a lot of courage and a and a big heart, a big open to keep your heart open as well.
Speaker 1:Um, yeah and yeah, another point that just want to highlight as well, what you said is, um, we don't need to heal through pain and suffering and, and you know, and yeah, like, because that's what kind of, when I, when I first, um, yeah, when I first started, uh, my own path as well, I, I, I got into that, I was, I did believe that through it was through intensity and through, like, I did lots of intense breathing practices at the start and really like made my, you know, like, I believe that I had to really cry and, you know, and almost, I almost like re-traumatized myself sometimes in the process. So, yeah, finding this path of tantra and that we can, like you say, we can heal through pleasure and being intimate with our bodies. And what you said about it doesn't necessarily have to be sexually related as well, it can literally be. It's about presence, it's about awareness and consciousness and being with ourselves. So yeah, I love that.
Speaker 2:I love that.
Speaker 2:I believe that's like the first step within Tantra connect with yourself to have that self-awareness, to really be so in tuned with yourself that you're aware of what you're feeling and from that you're decipher of what you're feeling and from that you're deciphering what do I need and letting that need guide you to do the thing that's going to take you this further.
Speaker 2:Because, like for it sounds like both of us when we started our healing journey, it was about intensity. It could be like the breath work for hours, it could be the medicine ceremonies, it could be the combo or like whatever. It was right, that's really intense and maybe we needed that back then, right, and obviously it served us because that's what we were guided to. However, now, as we're coming more into ourselves and knowing that there's so many different tools out there, we can, like, really tune into ourselves and ask what do I need? Is it that deep cry or is it that hug, or is it that massage, or is it just to sleep? Yeah, and give it to ourselves, because it's really just about feeling and letting that guide us to do, rather than think like oh, like the mind from the ego, like this is the thing I need to do.
Speaker 1:this is what's going to fix it yeah, it's more of an inward inward than outward process rather than an outward inward process. Right, it doesn't have to be so complicated. No, exactly, I know that is such that's such an important message that said again that's such an important message yeah, our, our healing, quote-unquote.
Speaker 2:I like to say our coming into wholeness doesn't have to be so complicated.
Speaker 2:Exactly it really requires that awareness of what am I feeling. Oh, let me actually do this, yeah, without trying to analyze it, without trying to label it, without trying to fix it or change it or figure out why that's the case. Let's just feel it and let that guide me, because it has a lot of wisdom. It's going to tell me what I need. It's going to tell me what I need to know. It's going to tell me what I need. It's going to tell me what I need to know. It's going to tell me what I need to do. It's going to tell me what I get to stop doing, um, and. And then there voila, like it's integrated, because it's through the embodiment of that energy. Then it can shift and change into something else.
Speaker 1:Yeah, exactly, and then, knowing that it takes time, it takes time. You know, I think that that's a, that's the thing. I have a lot of reminders myself and conversations with other women that it's not a, it's not. You do one thing and it's, it's all good. It takes time. The integration and embodiment process, and, um, two things, how? Firstly for the, for the listener, who might not know, um, really what, they might have a like a basic understanding, but they might not know what. About tantra? How would you kind of define tantra in just a short sentence? And then, like, what, um, what have you found in, maybe, your experience, or the women that you work with their most, their most the challenges that they come across, that they face?
Speaker 2:Yeah for sure. So to me, tantra is a lifestyle. In actuality, like when you were to Google Tantra and what it means, it's a Sanskrit word that is referring to weaving and expansion and liberation, and I believe that Tantra weaves together the energetic and the physical realms together as one to help us manifest the unmanifested into this physical reality. It's all about creation, all about evolution, it's all about authentic expression, because through that authentic expression, we're allowing that energy of you know, spirit, that life force, to flow into physical matter and create something that affects everything around us very beautifully.
Speaker 2:And I believe, like we've been saying, it really starts with that presence, that self-awareness, that acceptance, that validation of ourselves, so that we're like, yeah, I feel like singing, so I'm gonna sing right now exactly right spirit wants me to do right, yeah, and that very tantric like just allowing ourselves to do what's alive within, yeah, and slowing down so that we can receive that message, that guidance, and then being that yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm not judging ourselves in that process.
Speaker 1:You know, I there's many times, many of the times, especially here in barcelona, the energy of bar of Barcelona is, is is beautiful. I feel like it's a, like a wave, a feminine wave of energy here in Barcelona and and there's multiple times where I feel like dancing down the street. You know, it's a beautiful city and it just calls for movement and dancing. And, yeah, and there's times when I have, but there's times when I've been like, oh, I can't do that, like people will. You know, people will say this, this and this, or think this isn't this, and again, that's a awareness for myself to be like, okay, I'm still having some judgment here of you know of what people people would think, so yeah, just giving yourself that permission to do it regardless.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I always tell myself that no one is going to judge me, quite like I'm judging myself, like it's really me and I'm projecting that onto other people.
Speaker 1:Exactly, exactly, exactly, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah. So you asked uh, what are some things that women come to me, uh, to receive my support in? And judgment? Self-judgment is actually one of the top things that women even men come to me with, um that they feel challenged by. I mean, we're all human, we all want to be accepted and feel loved and feel safe, so obviously that is a fear of ours to be rejected, judged and then we're like abolished by society.
Speaker 2:Um, so other things that women come to me to receive my support in would be that they don't feel connected to their body, like it's tough for them to understand what they're feeling or actually feel sensations in their body, um, or they're not feeling safe to be themselves, to communicate what they need, to communicate what they like, what their boundaries are.
Speaker 2:There's a lot of resistance and fear around that communication and really owning authentically who they are and what's alive, what's their truth. Other things are like that they're not able to be sexually active with their partner, either because of sexual trauma that they've endured in the past or because they're like very much in their head in the present moment that they are not able to really feel and it's like, again, very overwhelming for them as well. Um other other challenges are like if there's conflict within the relationship, like lack of trust or um just not really being able again to communicate with each other, or there's a lack of intimacy or a lack of their needs being met, or like they're they're always, always um trying to have a certain um experience with their partner, like whether if it's like a activity or like a date night or something like their partner isn't on the same page with them. So they're like learning how to compromise and how to find like win-win solutions um some other stuff.
Speaker 1:No, that's interesting, that's really interesting. Um, before we go into ourselves and a bit more into like, what the person is experiencing currently, can you share a bit about? You said these are challenges with women. Um, I hear that you work with men as well. Can you share a bit about some of the challenges that, um, that men come to you with and, yeah, and how you work with them?
Speaker 2:Yeah. So primarily for men, it's that they're having a challenging time actually meeting women who are able to have that long lasting connection with, like they're. They're a little bit confused as to like where to meet, like quality women, or like when they do meet a woman and they are dating. They're a little bit confused as to like what conversations to have, what is like a little bit too much to invest in on a woman, like in those first couple of months, or like what is the right amount, or, um, like how to actually understand how to hold space for a woman emotionally. Um, because us women were very emotional, very logical, so they don't really understand the emotion quite much. Um. So then they feel like a little awkward or like they're not actually supporting a woman.
Speaker 2:And that's actually something that men are prioritizing, like they want to support women. They really do want to help us, they just aren't how. So men are asking me, like how do I show up in certain situations when emotions are high? Also, men are really wanting to cultivate their sexual energy. They're tired of the superficial orgasms. They're wanting to have more expansive pleasure. They're wanting to also pleasure their partner and ensure that their partner is enjoying their experience, but also minimize that pressure and that responsibility that comes with that desire. Those are primarily the things that a lot of men come to me for that's.
Speaker 1:That's really interesting. Thank you for sharing because, yeah, yeah, in my experience I've worked with women, so so it's interesting. It's only now that I've um been talking now I haven't conversate more conversations with men and it's very interesting to it sounds like we're you know both, both genders uh, wanting the same thing and it's like coming into union and coming into union, coming together and and I feel like, coming into acceptance with each other and and, yeah, being with each other in that relationship. I think relationships are. Relationships are beautiful. You know, I feel like relationships are are our biggest, biggest, most beautiful experience and also our biggest challenge, right, and, yeah, it's beautiful, beautiful. So, um, going into what I want to talk about now is just touch on where, where you're at right now in your, in your current journey, in your, yeah, in your relationship to yourself, and we can, yeah, we can talk about that and I can share some, some bits of where I'm at.
Speaker 2:I'm sure we'll resonate and with each other and and connect there as well yeah, so currently in my journey, um, so I recently three months ago got out of a relationship that was two years long and very beautiful.
Speaker 2:Man and him and I. We explored the tantric path together, so there's definitely a lot of connections, emotionally and spiritually, that still linger, um, and the grief of that breakup actually propelled me even deeper into my tantric path within myself, my development, sexually even, and so currently within my path, I'm prioritizing being my own lover, being my own man, my own father, my own mother, my own best friend, showing up for myself daily for self-pleasure, and, of course, that looks very different every day depending on what am I feeling and needing, um, and and just like really having a lot of fun with myself and like taking this time to just have fun, like dance, to create, reading, reading a lot currently within my business content wise program, wise service, wise, um, and it feels really good, it feels so amazing and uplifting to be in service and being in service, um, along with pleasure and like these things that just help. I feel like that is the antidote to any pain or any conflict. It's, it's pleasure, it's purpose, pleasure and purpose.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I hear you Pleasure and purpose.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so those are the things that are like really prominent currently for me and also in my own way, right, because new levels bring different devils, right. I love that. I love that when now I'm like, oh, there's another layer of openness that I can achieve, as I am like connecting more with myself, with my own desires, with my own pleasure, with my own, you know. That definitely brings me more into my own worth and my value and my standards, and knowing that I don't have to settle for anything less than that because I can give it to myself and if you know that not being provided, it's like there's, there's an abundance of that with myself.
Speaker 2:Others, right, um, and just like really taking this time to cultivate relationships with my sisters, who are also Tantrikas and, you know, play and support each other and like really pamper one another, um and and again, like I kind of drifted from like this, this lesson, that I'm like currently seeing where it's like I get to open myself up even more, to love even more, to receiving what is already here in my life and being receptive to the love that's already given to me, right, like there's certain people in all of our lives I think that are really close to us, that maybe we take for granted, that maybe we're like, ah, like even frustrated with this person and their innocence and their genuineness, that you know when.
Speaker 2:And for me, what I'm seeing is when I can be really present and receptive to that and be grateful for it and even reciprocate that. That is me opening more to the love that's already available and because I'm open, it's like expanding my caliber to receive more of that. So for me, it's just more about like okay, feeling like it's okay and it's safe. And this is actually what my life is about to experience love, to give love to like, just play, like there's. There doesn't need to be a destination besides just being and feeling and and having that love.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that pleasure oh, amazing, thank you for sharing. I feel like I hope the listener really, like you know, listen, here's the message here's, here's the message here's, here's the energy behind your words and I, I feel it and I can really I feel the the, yeah, the love, like speaking from, from the heart and your own truth and I really I deeply feel that as you're speaking, and I hope the listener can as well. And, yeah, because what I'm hearing you say, which is so beautiful, well it's, it's the more that the masculine energy is, is holding the space and being your own man, and the more that we allow ourselves to be receptive and be held in that energy, of that masculine energy, the more the feminine is, is open and receptive and things. Um, yeah, because a lot of one of the things that I hear a lot from some women is is I'm too much in my masculine energy and it's, and then it's a judgment of that right, and it's like, oh no, we just need it's just changing the relationship to what you, what you believe in, what are you, how, where have you got that from right? Where have you read that somewhere? Like, firstly, kind of breaking down what that actually means for them.
Speaker 1:And I feel like what you're saying is is is is true, it's literally, it's holding the space, it's allowing, allowing yourself to be in that presence and that, yeah, and giving yourself the, the love and the support that you need, because I feel like as well, like so, that's really attractive for men as well. A woman, a woman that's so empowered in herself, that is knows herself, knows you know, but then is receptive to a male, um, yeah, a male to be held in her, in her fullness, in her most aliveness and and love yeah, it's actually that woman's ability to be in her balanced masculine that forward the man, the external man's masculine energy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like I remember seeing um this post on on social media actually yesterday where um some of the characteristics or actions that women do to men that shut down their masculine energy is like asking for their help but then cutting that support short because you're not enjoying how it's being done and you think you can do better.
Speaker 2:So you step in and then you take over the task that you had initially asked him to help you in yeah and it takes masculine energy actually for, like I remember you mentioned, like a lot of women are saying, like I'm in my masculine energy, I'm too masculine and they want to be more feminine. However, in order for a woman to be more feminine, she doesn't need to be in that masculine energy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, exactly, exactly yeah.
Speaker 2:It needs to change the masculine energy, that standpoint from wounded to balanced, where it's not controlling and it's more present, exactly.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like wounded masculine energy is like the control and yeah, and the criticism, and then yeah and then like that balanced masculine energy is like being present and being the observer and really holding the space for what's happening to happen. So it's like in that situation, it it's like, yeah, if you're wanting help, like even that it's going to require you to speak up and use your voice and ask for help, which is a very masculine thing to speak up and to take it and be like, hey, can you help me with this? Yeah, and then know to sit the feminine down and be like all, sit down, relax, I got you, like it's being taken care of. And then the feminine to just like really surrender into that, knowing it is safe to say it is safe to just allow it to unfold, however that person's doing it, and to trust that that is divine. Yeah, that is exactly what's needed.
Speaker 1:However, perform that yeah, exactly, yeah, yeah, trusting that we're exactly where we're meant to be in that moment and trusting that we're we're feeling or experiencing, yeah, and experiencing whatever with we need to. Yeah, yeah, and I love what you said about the, about, yeah, about there's no destination. My life is not about having a destination. It's about experience and love, right, yeah, yeah, I wish, I wish, like, yeah, I just I wish that is life. Right, that is life I wish everyone, um, yeah, embodies that and can and can live and like, knows that and lives that and you know it always. Imagine what's possible, imagine what's possible if we all lived in that truth and that, knowing that we're here to experience love, like, we're here to experience love and serve love and be love and give love and receive love, and wow, thank you.
Speaker 1:So, just taking a bit of a shift, um, back to back to what we said at the start, actually about creativity, about, um, yeah, about using your sexual energy and, yeah, the relationship to your sensuality and your body and awareness to create, right, and, and, yeah, just, but firstly, I'd love to just for you to just share your a bit about more in depth your journey on, like, your creativity, I can see that, yeah, you're like you're creating so much already for your business and everything, and it's such a creative process. How has harnessing your sexual energy um, yeah, I don't know, I don't know what the word is not enhanced like? Uh, expanded your creativity. There you go expanded your creativity yeah.
Speaker 2:So harnessing my sexual energy really helped expand my creativity and my life um in quite a few ways. So I I would say it starts with how I go into my sexual experience with myself. It's not like whatever you'll see on, like porn or movies or like anything like that. You know, I think a lot of people feel that self-pleasure or sex needs to look a certain way, and so they're in performance rather than in connection to themselves and what is being felt. So for me, my approach is like a meditative experience with my self-pleasure, um, and that allows for me to connect with my energy, with my sexual energy, with how it feels and where it's at um and like be able to cultivate it and enhance it through even things that are completely non-sexual, like tickling my neck. Tickling my neck or like having my hair tickle my back, and that can like stimulate a lot of energy. And I also use my breath and I move that energy and I use the sound to like really enhance the experience and and like turn myself on just with these things that are completely non-sexual Um, and and I start to feel that energy like at the root and at the pelvis um start to like tingle and start swirling and I start to like breathe into that and I have an intention, as I am like what is it that I want? Maybe it's like some money, maybe it's more clients, maybe it's like to support my client and having X results in their journey with me, or maybe it's like to have a home, right, Like I will breathe my intention into that energy and like I I'll keep the intention in mind, as I am in self-pleasure, um, and I don't believe that there needs to be an orgasm in order for that to partition.
Speaker 2:Because actually, quite actually yesterday, um, I was just like in self-pleasure and, um, I didn't have an orgasm. I was just like playing with myself and not even really sexual ways. I wasn't touching my breasts too much or my vagina, um, and when I came out of that, um, I got a new client and they paid me, they signed up for my program, wow, yeah, and I was just like, okay, cool, like that's, that's, that's, that's one way right, like I feel that me being in this receptive state of pleasure, of high vibrational energies and emotions, like pleasure, like love, like laughter and feeling good, um, it makes everyone magnetic to other things that are in alignment to that vibration, like prosperity and abundance and uh, opportunities and success, right, um. So there's been that that's actually happened to me quite a few times where I'm in self-pleasure and then I get out and the next hour or the next day I receive like a good amount of money.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's one way I can relate. I can relate to that. I can relate to that. It's amazing. And when I tell people, yeah, like I'm like believe it, like it's true, it's true, like it's true. You know, um, yeah, I recently created, I recently basically manifested um, my new flat, my new flat in on an island. From this, like 24 hours later, I'm like this actually happened and it was everything that I was envisioning and feeling and things as well. So, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:I believe that money is actually, uh, like the element of water and it's like flowy thing. However, like our inner waters need to flow, like in our sexual energy, is water as well, like that's like the element of water. I feel like these two are very connected through that element of water and like we're even for, like men, like the sexual energy is water, like that's the element of our sacral chakra and when we're like, our sacral is like flowing and it's open and it's like you know that life force, energy, is actually flowing through us, know we're having that stream actually flowing. And then, of course, like money is coming to us, I feel like, if we're turned on, we're turning life on for us, we're turning for us, we're turning on abundance, love and all the things. Yeah, yeah everything.
Speaker 1:That's amazing. If we're turned on, life is turned on for us, not the other way around, right? Not expecting, oh, life we need to be, life needs to turn us on, like no, we turn ourselves on and life gets turned on as a result of that. Yeah, I love that. Yeah, yeah, amazing. There's so many things. And what about money? Yeah, definitely, that's so. That's so interesting. That's such a uh, interesting, yeah, way of looking at money. So I believe it to be true as well, because I've experienced it as well, of money just flowing in when, when I have been open and then when I've been contracted, money is stagnant and you know. So, yeah, yeah, I resonate, um, yeah, to last question and then last question, and there's five kind of one words quick fire questions at the end to answer.
Speaker 1:But before we do that, um, what I want to ask you about is is education, is how you know, because I, I'm, I find it so interesting. This is one of this is, uh, part of the message of the podcast, is it's just to bring in the message of how can we all the creative abundance and of the guests on this podcast and your own experience and, yeah, your personal journey and the work that you do now and how, yeah, in your opinion, um, how, what would you say in, if you're going to go back to, you're going to, yeah, go back to an education? Like what would you say? How would you go about teaching I don't even know that's the right word like guiding, like, say, young teenagers in this path, in this tantric path? Like what would you, what would be your way or your guidance to the young people?
Speaker 2:beautiful. I love this question personally. For me, I believe, it starts way before they're even teenagers. I know actually exploring myself when I was like five or six.
Speaker 1:Right, yeah, me too.
Speaker 2:I think it starts way before our teenage years. Um, yeah, I would say I. I mean first off, I don't like how. I don't know about you, I don't know about the majority of our listeners, but I know for myself and a lot of people in my circle. We had pet names for our genitals.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, oh yeah yeah.
Speaker 2:I was like my vagina was called a Tweety and I felt like it was like so cringe when my mom would say that, like, even as I was five, I'm like cringing at this, I'm like yeah or even like not not putting a word to it and be like just that, don't touch there.
Speaker 1:Yeah, what is so wrong about this?
Speaker 2:it's no different than my elbow, like we don't call my elbow a tweety. Like no, it's an elbow, exactly. Yeah, vagina it's a penis, yeah, like. I think that's where we can start. Start exactly first. Start by teaching our children like the proper anatomy terms for our yeah and also yeah, not like saying it's wrong to touch that. I think it's like when I have children, I will tell my children like yeah, like you can touch your body, be careful with yourself, be gentle with yourself, because you can hurt yourself. So you know, only do things that feel good. However, do that in privacy, like that space that's safe with yourself, because that's a private, intimate moment with yourself.
Speaker 1:That's key yeah, exactly, it's say exactly, I love that. It's sacred, right, exactly, because, yeah, it's not about yeah, allowing. Sometimes, when I've asked this question, um to to my friends, it's sometimes the response I have is, oh well, yeah, that's all good, but we don't want children to be touching themselves in public and doing what everything's like. It's not about that, it's about respect it. Like you said, it's still honoring the privacy, honoring, honoring the sacredness of of our sexuality and and the sacredness of of being intimate with ourselves. Yeah, yeah, and I love what you said, just to highlight, um, about the like it starts before teenagers. Right, it's just a, it's just an age, it's just a number and yeah, it is.
Speaker 1:I feel like our sexuality is, is very innocent. It's in this most pure sense, in its most purity. It's so pure like it's the most innocent. It's, um, it's our innocence, our sexual, our sexual being, and I feel, I believe, like we are, we are born like these sexual beings, like really sexual, and we just get, you know, we get all these messages and things as we go through life that it's not okay and etc. Etc.
Speaker 1:And yeah, yeah, I mean again, like and approaching like our sexuality and our sensuality from a young age from a place of exploration and and curiosity, you know, I mean, I feel I um, I started exploring like my body and my sexuality in a bath, really innocently. I was in a bath with another girl I think I was about 10 years old, you know and it's just pure innocence. It was pure, oh, we were having had the shower and we're like, oh, it feels good when we put the shower near our vaginas and we were just playing. It was literally not, you know, sexual in that way. It was just two girls exploring what feels good together, you know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so it's taking it back to that innocence, yeah and I feel that, because you know we're only learning what our parents know yeah, they're not knowing anything, and any better that you know. It's just what they. They were taught to not touch that or that's bad. Or you know, because I think there's a greater fear that you know they might get hurt or irresponsible about this. It requires the communication, not the denial and keeping this under the rug. And we don't talk about these things. No, we need to talk about so. This way we can eradicate that fear and we can know that our child knows not to do this in public or knows not to do this to other kids, right, um, you know, knows to be safe and like how to have when they're older, when they are teenagers, right how to engage sexually safely, where they're protected from STDs, stis, unwanted pregnancy, and also like, in a way that I I mean, I'm not an advocate for birth control, but you know there's ways, like if we can really learn about our body and the second that we through, like as women, we go through our receiving our monthly cycle, right, like we should be learning about fertility awareness and how to connect with our body, that we're receiving these clues that we're fertile or not, and same thing for men. I feel like, you know, fathers need to understand for themselves how to cultivate their sexual energy and have that level, that awareness of their level of arousal, and how to, like you know, keep that to a certain point so that there isn't these unwanted premature ejaculation experiences, and they should be teaching to their son.
Speaker 2:And I feel like such a great time to have these conversations with our children is like I mean, I would first start like with their anatomy right, like at a young age, and like allow them to know that this is okay to play and to touch and to explore, but, you know, in the safety of your own presence in a private area and you're gentle with yourself.
Speaker 2:And then when they you know obviously they're through that they will start to explore and play and have probably more questions for you and to answer these questions honestly.
Speaker 2:And when we see that they are exemplifying sexual behavior, this is a great time to um about sex with them and talk about what sex is and how it happens and how it's sacred and how we should respect this and the things that we should talk about before ever engaging in sex and the things that we should come into sex knowing, so that this way there's a lot less shame, there's a lot less fear, there's a lot less, uh, problems and challenges, and we're actually enjoying this aspect of ourselves. I feel like, if I mean, I feel like this is like kind of the generation that we are all like awakening to our body, to our sexual energy, we're starting to do the work to redefine the relationship around our sexual energy and through that we will be able to teach our children and that's what start the revolution. Yeah, and I feel like that's what's really necessary because, like you said, it's innocent, it's life, it's our life, like if, without it, not be here, yeah, what's our life for us?
Speaker 1:yeah, we, we need to come into acceptance of it, because this is how we got here exactly, exactly, yeah, and I know and exactly and that's a great point to end on is that it's, it's it's the relationship to our sexuality and coming into acceptance and of that that's going to create the revolution. It's come, it's coming back to us and it's taken the ownership and and that's empowering. That's empowering for the individual which, as a result, will be empowering for the collective and revolutionize the way that, yeah, we, we teach and guide our young generation, um, regarding around their sexuality and their creativity. Amazing. Thank you so much, um. Before we do the questions, where can you just tell listener where to, where they can find you or any offers or services you want to share about that you currently have?
Speaker 2:yes, so currently you can find me through instagram. My handle is tantric underscore Jaguar underscore priestess. My spirit animal is a Jaguar. I love that. I love your, I love your name, thank you. And my website is the sovereignhealercom and currently I actually have enrollment open. I open enrollment for my program Self Sex and Success every other month. So that is a four-month journey that travels each individual through a path to access and achieve four different milestones, which is redefining their relationship to themselves, enhancing their connection to their self-awareness and then integrating the pain body and also exploring the tantric pathways and cultivating harmonious, authentic, heart-based relationships with others. So those are like the four milestones that we really focus on within self-sex and success. And, um, yeah, anybody can inquire about that just through messaging me, reaching out to me, or through dms or emails or on my website great, thank you, and we'll put I'll put all the details of where you can find jean emory in the show notes.
Speaker 1:So, um, yeah, that's it. Thank you so much. We're just gonna end with five yeah, five questions, one word answers. Let's see, let's see. Um can be quite challenging. Are you ready? Fun, yeah, number one what do you love most about yourself?
Speaker 2:wow, I would say, my smile, beautiful, smiling yeah, so, um, uh, magnetic as well.
Speaker 1:You know, I love, I love when we're walking down the street and you, simply, I love smiling at people. I love smiling at people. I used to live in Thailand. Yeah, I people. I used to live in Thailand. Yeah, I used to. I used to live in Thailand and, genuinely, when people ask me, um, what do you most miss about Thailand, it was generally the Thai smile, because everyone cause we couldn't speak the language, like there was a massive communication barrier but, um, everyone smiled at each other and it just, it's just a just such a ripple effect of energy, you know so yeah, I feel so good, I feel happy, like if I'm smiling, I know I'm happy, exactly.
Speaker 1:It's a signal to your body Like, okay, we're happy. Yeah, I love that, love that Number two. What do you, what do you value most in others?
Speaker 2:Integrity.
Speaker 1:Integrity. Good Number three I feel like we've touched on this, Um, if you could come back in another lifetime as an animal.
Speaker 2:What animal would you choose to be, Definitely?
Speaker 1:a Jaguar, yeah, so I love that. Um, okay, number four. One word. This is a difficult one, some of them. What is the one thing you envision being included in the education of the future? Oh, it's a hard one, this like in school systems yeah, like just generally as well, because I I also believe, like I'm not even sure, that we'll have schools as we know it in the future. Uh, but yeah, just in education in general. Um, I know, that's a really sorry go on.
Speaker 2:Authentic Tantra Authentic.
Speaker 1:Tantra. Yeah, I know that's a really general question. Maybe I should reword it, but, um, it's quite difficult to answer Authentic Tantra. Yeah, yeah, I agree. It's quite difficult to answer Authentic tantra. Yeah, yeah, I agree. Last one, number five what is one piece of wisdom that you would give?
Speaker 2:your youngest self, from your highest self, now To put myself first.
Speaker 1:I love that. Choose yourself yourself, yeah, amazing great well, thank you.
Speaker 2:Thank you so much. I love this conversation. Thank you, I'm so grateful to be on your show. You're welcome, you're welcome.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much for listening in. If you enjoyed this episode, share it with a friend or post it on social media and tag me so I can personally thank you for helping to get the message out. I am so grateful to be on this journey with you. Talk to you soon.